Where does all inspiration come from? Where does all meaningful connection occur? In what space can I begin to find real meaningful answers? Stillness. Learning to be present.
We also begin to discuss some foundational pieces to begin to change the direction and nature of our relationships.
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Understanding the Role of Stillness in Our Lives
Many people struggle with constant thinking and overactive minds. In Buddhism, it is said that thoughts are the root of all suffering. The mind is constantly engaged in a stream of thoughts, often leading to stress, anxiety, and disconnection from our emotions and spirit. Stillness is the practice of detaching from these thoughts, quieting the mind, and returning to a place of awareness.
Stillness is where clarity, inspiration, and truth arise. The answers we seek are not found in the chaos of thought but in the space of silence within us.
Why Stillness is Essential
- Recalibration – Taking a moment to pause allows us to realign with our deeper self rather than being swept away by constant thinking.
- Emotional Awareness – In stillness, we become aware of our emotions and what they are trying to tell us.
- Spiritual Connection – Whether through meditation, prayer, or simply sitting in silence, stillness connects us with our intuition and deeper wisdom.
- Enhancing Relationships – Being still helps us become better listeners and more present with others.
A Simple Stillness Practice
- Find a Quiet Space – Set aside 30 minutes in a place where you won’t be disturbed.
- Focus on Your Breath – Close your eyes and focus on your breathing for the first 2 minutes.
- Observe Your Thoughts – Rather than engaging with them, let them pass by like clouds.
- Emotional Check-in – Ask yourself: What am I feeling? What is this emotion telling me I need?
- Seek Clarity – In the stillness, seek insight by asking a specific question or setting an intention.
- Study and Reflect – Read something meaningful that aligns with your personal growth journey.
This practice is a fusion of Eastern and Western spiritual traditions—combining the Buddhist practice of stillness with the Christian principle of seeking.
The Role of Stillness in Relationships
Stillness is just as important in relationships as it is for individual growth. Many conflicts arise because we are thinking about what we want to say next rather than truly listening to our partner.
In healthy relationships, people feel seen and understood. This happens when we practice being present, observing rather than reacting, and listening with intention.
Ways to Cultivate Stillness in Relationships
- Active Listening – When your partner is speaking, focus entirely on understanding rather than formulating a response.
- Taking a Pause – Before reacting, take a moment to breathe and gain perspective.
- Creating Sacred Space – Set aside intentional time to check in with each other.
- Balancing Independence and Connection – Support each other’s personal growth while maintaining a strong connection.
Recognizing Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
One of the most important indicators of a healthy relationship is how your partner responds to your emotions. If they dismiss, blame, or become defensive, it may indicate an inability to take responsibility.
A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, emotional support, and shared growth. If conflict arises, both partners should be willing to acknowledge their role and work together to improve the relationship.
Final Thoughts
Stillness is not just a practice for personal well-being—it is a foundation for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. By integrating stillness, emotional awareness, and intentional communication, we create space for real growth and meaningful connection.
Make stillness a priority in your life, and watch how it transforms not only your inner world but also your relationships with others.